Thursday, September 29, 2016

Moving, and moving, and moving ...

I've been offline for a few days, as Annie moves her abode from the place she was renting to her new home near Union HS on the West Side. Since I had a colonoscopy scheduled this morning, I decided to remain at the rental with Remy until that was finished. And finished it is! I did an "all natural" prep, a product called Natural Calm which is 100% magnesium citrate, without all the cramp-causing ingredients of other preparations. Just to make sure that my choice for something less violent wouldn't mean that I wasn't prepared, I started fasting (clear liquids only) after lunch on Tuesday, and I drank the prep starting Tuesday afternoon, as well. 

I also chose no sedation, thinking that it probably wouldn't be any worse than childbirth or a Crohn's episode. I was right. The worst part about it was the gas afterward, since as the nurse explained, "Right now your colon is flat as a pancake so he (the doc) has to inflate it so he can see what's going on in there." Since I was not sedated, I was able to ask questions as I watched the video and carry on a conversation with the professionals present. Bottom line: it was fascinating to see inside myself. Everything was pink and shiny and perfect except for one spot where the surface looked a little different. The doc thought it might be a "flat polyp" so he injected some saline to try to get it to pop up so he could remove it; but it wasn't popping up, so he decided to take a small amount for a biopsy. But given the behavior of the spot he decided it probably wasn't a polyp and in the end wasn't too concerned about it, especially since the rest of the colon looked so healthy. 

The nurse said, "I can tell you eat a healthy diet." I was fairly pleased at that (and maybe just a tiny bit smug).

It did take a little while to get all the bubbles out, but all in all I was out well inside the expected time for the visit, and I was able to drive myself away. I picked up a young woman who was walking away from the building in the rain. Turned out she needed to be near Breton Village Mall, and it was easy as could be for me to drop her off there. 

I had thought I'd go out for breakfast, but my system wasn't feeling right yet, so I went back to the rental, had some bone broth, and made myself a banana pancake. After that, I felt much better, and now I'm out getting some things done.

Moving and moving isn't just about helping Annie get settled in a new place. I've had many conversations with friend Rick, who is still in Tennessee, but looking stoically for a living place on the Gulf Coast. The most likely area is in Mississippi, about an hour from New Orleans. Yesterday, he mentioned a place with a six-month lease, which is appealing because we haven't tried anything like this before and don't know what to expect. If it works out and we really like the area, we'll probably continue to stay there for a while, even though I'm sure the summer will be oppressive. Of course, speaking of movement, I'll be up in New York State and Michigan at least part of the summer, with Abby and Adam's wedding on June 30. My nephew got engaged a week or so ago, too, and perhaps their wedding will  be next summer, as well. Not sure what they're planning.

And what's moving in my inside? A little. I was able to get out and help my cousin with some stresses in her life, feeling a bit like the person Sacred Space was designed to promote. Music is starting to push its way to the surface. I found myself singing -- improvising -- as I walked Remy early this morning. I also joined a FB group to support each other in daily (or at least several times a week) meditation. There's not specific form to it, just a group to encourage its member to stick with it. And so I have been ... meditating, usually in the morning, for about 10 minutes. I'm sure, as I get used to it, I'll be able to up that amount of time. So far, I've had a revelation about how my mind wants to get stuck on certain "stories," whether mine or someone else's, trying to solve problems or follow scenarios. When I see it happening, I find myself better and better able to let go of the stories and be in the moment. This is a huge goal of meditation for me. And, like keeping a dream diary, the more I do it the better it gets.

I do feel a bit pulled about choice of geographical location. Part of me would rather go back to California, and part of me really wants to relax and walk and bike near the ocean -- which I wouldn't be able to afford to do in CA. It's six months. I'm excited to see what happens!

Every day, I feel the motion of the energies, something is constantly moving. Everything is constantly moving, breathing, dancing, singing. I love this dance of life.

Friday, September 23, 2016

And the beat goes on ...

There's a rhythm to the seasons. Most people have a rhythm to their daily and weekly lives as well. I used to. Now I'm trying to find a way into a different kind of rhythm, one that involves getting up in the morning with a sense of purpose and creativity, balancing exercise, inspiration, socializing and reflection throughout the day, as well as keeping myself on my positive paleo diet. (These are Alice's "five things".)

I walk Remy three to four times every day, but that's not really enough exercise for me. I feel much better when I get a significant workout in. There are so many factors that play into me having a good day, feeling healthy physically and mentally, sleeping well at night, etc. And yet I so often ignore them and spend hours at the computer and/or watching procedural TV show reruns.

In preparing for my upcoming colonoscopy, I've been trying to eat better. Yesterday was a really good day, and today was going well till I decided to buy some gluten-free cookies. Bad idea. I really have to stay away from all refined sugar -- dates seem to be okay, and very small amounts of maple syrup or honey, but anything more than that and I can't stop eating it. I'll start fresh again tomorrow.

I thought getting away from my past years' routine would help me to create a new one that is more productive and creative, and in fact, at some places during my travels I was more creative. The places where I did things like go for a walk instead of spend hours on the computer were places where I had to go out in order to access WiFi, or where the connection was slow so that I used it far less.

I love creating music, singing, dancing, acting, walking, biking, interacting with other people, volunteering in ways that help people ... and yet I don't do it. And as much as I love being here in Grand Rapids with Annie and her kids, I'm getting antsy to move on, but still somewhat uncertain about where I'm going.

Here's the current plan. I'll stay in Grand Rapids long enough to take my mom to see the US Women's Gymnastics Team at Van Andel Arena on October 16. After that, I will either travel to somewhere on the Gulf Coast and room with friend, Rick Overholt, for a year (lease) or if that doesn't work out, drive back to California, stopping off in LA to help out my friend, Joan, who is recuperating from a nasty dog bite to her foot/ankle, and to see what I can find in the way of a place to sleep and possibly work. Problem is that, while my SS is not enough to live on in LA, earning money to supplement it will reduce the amount I can get.

It's time to trust the unknown again. If Rick finds a place for the two of us, I'm totally ready for a year near an ocean, having a roommate experiment. I know I'll be spending some time in New York next summer, helping Abby prepare for her and Adam's wedding. I might even see if I can work a session at Blue Lake and visit my friends and family in Grand Rapids before returning to the south.

Perhaps the first thing I need to do when I "land" is find a voice teacher and/or community theatre. I think that would make me very happy and get me back on the creative track.

In the meantime, I'm enjoying having the time to clean and cook for people who really appreciate it. I guess, if the creative thing doesn't work out, I could be a nanny or housekeeper for a family -- even this family. 

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Getting to know Grand Rapids

I lived in Grand Rapids from 1980 on. Most of the different places I lived were in Midtown. Chuck and I had a house on Grove St., NE, the only place outside of Midtown that I resided. Since I've been back in the area, I've been getting to know the Northwest Side, since Annie lives NW of Alpine and Leonard, as well as Wyoming, since Kathleen (where I've been staying since Monday) and her family live NE of Burlingame and 44th.

Once upon a time, many years ago, my family lived on Illinois in Wyoming, but I was really young then and don't remember it. The story I have been told about that time is that my mom had been sitting and sewing on the couch. She left the house for a few minutes to talk to a neighbor, while I was napping. When she came back, I had cut the couch with the sewing scissors that had been left out.

My paternal grandparents lived on the NW side of Grand Rapids. I still like to drive past their old house on Edison now and then, even though it looks totally different these days. I can still visualize the old place with its hens and chicks in the rock wall, and it's long, shady backyard leading to the amazing garden with its rows of cherry and pear tomatoes. I also remember the lilies of the valley growing along the north side of the house in which there lived a very large toad, and the little cubby where milk was delivered.

But all I really knew of the West Side was how to get to their house and back to Holland, where we lived much of the time. Later, of course, I went many other places on the West Side, to friends' homes, to rehearsals, to The Walker Roadhouse where Alice worked for several years, to Union High for concerts, etc. But those were all "in and out" visits. I wasn't living in the neighborhood.

What feels different is getting off US 131 at Leonard and knowing, feeling in my bones, exactly how far it is to Alpine and then to Widdicomb. Same goes for getting to Kathleen's. No more wondering, "Is that Burlingame coming up, or is it the next one?" I know it when I get close, whether I'm coming from the east or the west. Tonight, I drove to a choir rehearsal in Jenison and learned a whole new relationship between streets that I have traveled before, but maybe not as far west or south as they go. Tonight, I traveled from Wyoming to Lowell, and then from Lowell to Jenison. I was fascinated. But that's the way I feel about traveling most of the time. "Oh! This goes there!"

Soon, I will help Annie move to another location on the West Side, and I will get to know more about that area before I depart West Michigan mid-October. And then I will learn coastal South Carolina, St Helena Island, I hope, if that pans out - or some other watery place. 

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Wheatland, and then some

Our arrival on Friday was uneventful. I found the entrance just as Chris (Creek) called to say she was 10 miles out, so I waited just inside, before the admission gate, for her to arrive, so i could follow her to the campsite. We were lucky enough to both find parking near the site.

We got our tents set up, and I inflated my air mattress, by which time I had sweat dropping off my nose, The air was still and heavy. I borrowed a sleeping bag from Christ to put atop the mattress and covered it with a sheet and blanket I had brought.

When all of this preparation was completed, we set off for "downtown." A small hospitality vehicle came by with room for only one rider, so it took Chris on to the activity area, and I walked. Of course, I had no idea where I was going, so I just followed the road. I walked and walked, past vast neighborhoods of tents and campers, many adorned with flags and nameplates,l and colorful lights, bearing witness to the veterans' experience of the festival.

As it turned out, I had walked far out of my way, and I surprised Chris when I appeared from the opposite of the expected direction. But it was a lovely walk and gave me an impression of how many people are in attendance and the layout of activities.

We strolled past all the food trailers, reading the menu offerings, and made our choices. I got lemonade from one vendor and a dinner of pork with heirloom tomatoes and garlic green beans. it was delicious and satisfying. We sat under a tent at a picnic table and listened to a quartet of players (including Rick Willey) while we ate. When I had finished my food, I had to escape the heaviness under the tent and opted to stroll the craft vendors. It was too humid to try on the amazing sweaters being offered at one booth, so I looked them over and moved on. By the time I reached the tie-dyed clothing, I knew I needed something lighter and freer to wear, so I bought a dress. I put my presvoius outfit in a bag and walked away wearing my new dress.

Chris and i returned to camp fairly early, around 9:00. I was tired and prepared for bed. It was a long night. I don't realize how much I've come to depend on my CPAP until I have to do without it. I woke and woke and woke, and tossed and turned. The air was cooler, but still humid, so everything felt sticky. I went to bed wearing my sweatshirt, but at some point in the night doffed that in favor of a tank top. For a while I slept without covers, then added the sheet, and then the blanket. When 6:15 rolled around, I got up. After a brief time of rallying my inner resources, I put on my shoes and sweatshirt and headed to "downtown" for breakfast.

I found scrambled eggs, American fries, and sausage patties (some of the best I've had in a long time) at the CACC building. I sat and opened Travels with Charley, which I'm almost finished with, and then I noticed David Doyle sitting at a nearby table alone. He greeted me as he went to get his meal, and I invited him to join me, which he did. We had a very nice conversation.

By the time I returned to the tent to get dressed, I had pretty much determined that I would either find a power source for my CPAP or go back to GR before bedtime on Saturday. My first foray started as one in search of a hardware store in Remus. I found a health food store, but no hardware store; but the women working at the health food store were extremely helpful. The owner called a nearby store to see if they had any kind of battery that would operate the CPAP overnight and be rechargeable. The answer was no.

I had a link on FB to a device that looked as though it might work. It was offered by Home Depot, so I searched a Home Depot in Mount Pleasant and drove on that way. I needed to see the item in person and make sure that it would work. The description made it appear to be able to charge a car battery, but it said it had a 72' cord, which made me wonder whether it would function without being plugged in. I went straight to the service counter at Home Depot, with the link opened on my phone. The clerk looked it up and informed me that the item was "internet only." I moved on and found a coffee shop near the university, where I took a short break.

When I got back to camp, Chris and I decided to go into "downtown" for lunch. We reached the nearest hospitality waiting station and sat down. When a help cart went by, we asked the driver to notify someone in hospitality to come and get us. We waited about a half hour, and then it began to drizzle, but quickly turned to rain, heavier and heavier. We headed back to sit in Chris's car but spotted an awning at a motorhome along the way and stopped there to wait. We chatted about the weather and the prospects for the afternoon and decided to go into Mount Pleasant instead and find a restaurant. Leaving Chris under the awning, I dashed to my car and returned to pick her up. As we left Wheatland, the driveways were muddying up nicely.

We had an enjoyable drive. The rain never got heavy enough to make driving hazardous, but we were glad we weren't hanging out in tents.

Lunch was delicious at The Brass Cafe and Saloon. We took our time, because of the weather, and by the time we got back to Wheatland, the rain clouds were breaking up. I dropped Chris off near the Main Stage and went back to the tent to park and to begin packing up. Of course, everything external was wet, but I gathered things together inside the tent and got bags ready to go to the car.

Fortunately, the sun appeared along with a light, lovely breeze, and I got to see some friends (Tracy, Russ, and John) and hear some good music -- a Latin band, and Charlie Musselwhite -- before I packed up and left.

I took some time to get back to GR.

The next thing was preparing to stay with Kathleen this week, so I did some laundry, figured out what to take with me, and straightened up in Ruby's room. On Sunday, I drove in Mom's car to get her, and then had her take me to Kathleen's to get her car. Since Kathleen had major back surgery, she won't be driving till mid-October, and since I would be driving her around this week, I'm able to use her car.

Yesterday, I reported in at GVSU with my huge bag of music, and with Remy in tow. I met the guest instructor, got (and gave) hugs from lots of friends, and played my first ballet class in over 4 months. I had forgotten my glasses, so my music choices were more limited than they would have otherwise been; but it still was a good class. Alex Hamel, the person who formerly played for modern classes and who has taken my place in the ballet classes, sat in yesterday and today. He hired me to sub for him because he's on his way out tomorrow to his brother's wedding near Portland. I'll be subbing through next Wednesday.

I thought I'd be getting the Honda Odyssey I looked at over a week ago sometime this week, but I got a message today that the owner's husband will no longer be getting the use of a company car, and they will need the van after all. Back to looking for a good, used vehicle to take on the road. And back to bicycling when I leave Kathleen's later in the week.

I have heard from friend Rick, who is still in Murfreesboro at this point, but who has been diligently looking for another place to stay, preferably on the ocean someplace. We are hoping for a place that came up on St Helena Island on the coast of South Carolina, between Hilton Head and Charleston. It looks like a great place to spend the winter. It has a one-year lease, though, so I guess we'll get to experience summer in SC, as well.

As always, I know a few things, and more are uncertain. This seems to me to be true of all of us.

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Sitting still

This new life is odd. It's very strange to have the fall things "start up" around me, and not to be a part of it. I like being in a position to serve others -- helping out at Annie's by cooking, doing laundry, and picking up; staying with Kathleen next week as she heals from her surgery; etc. And yet, I know this is a time when I can finally do what I want to do. I just don't know exactly what I want to do. I've been advised to do what gives me joy, and to pursue my gifts. I'm not sure what I need to do to get past the fear I have of pursuing the music that once gave me so much joy. There's a "jump" I need to make into an unknown, but even that is unidentifiable at the moment.

I think of trying to find another home for Remy, but at the moment he is the stable element in my life, always faithful and loving, although irritating to others. I just watched part of an episode of The Dog Whisperer called "The Other Woman," about adjusting a one-person dog to another in the household. I'm going to try to find it on the Internet and watch it again. Cesar says that a dog wants to be part of a pack, and it will take the open position in the hierarchy. If the new person takes a weak position, the dog will be empowered to be aggressive and hold his position. If the new person is firm and dominant, the dog will take his lower position in the pack.

It's hard to train people to be dominant without being violent or mean, though. I guess that's a new mission for me.

I had a great visit with high school friend Tom Fouts yesterday at his beautiful residence at Blue Racer Ranch in South Haven. We talked about all kinds of stuff. It's nice to reconnect with someone with whom I share current interests and ideas.


Just like before I left on my travels, I'm stuck in what's easy, spending time alone during the day while Annie and the kids are at school, and having trouble motivating myself to do things that are in my own favor. Maybe it's time for some more therapy.

Today looks like a predominantly rainy day. I believe, before the rain comes, I'll get on my bike and go someplace ... maybe head out to the Marne trail and go for a while. It won't matter if I get wet. If I had a car, I'd go to the beach. This is probably the last day hot enough to be able to swim in Lake Michigan this season. Ah, well. Enjoying the day.



Saturday, September 3, 2016

Notes from the road -- compiled from phone files

What follows are notes I dictated into my phone as I traveled, and transcribed to the computer so I could take the data off from my phone. Some of these observations have been worked into the blog previously, but a number of them have not and might be of interest to some of you.

Compiled Day Trip Notes:

7/6:
·         Highways are designed to connect towns along a string, like beads on a necklace. The expressways were designed to connect much larger beads, but in such a way that drivers lost sight of the interconnectedness of all of the parts of the necklace.

·         There are too many of us on this planet not to affect it negatively. I was just musing about the great national parks that I have visited so far on my trip. They are mobbed with people. What if those who first discovered these amazing places had not shared them with others? Surely, they would still have been discovered by the masses. What if we, as individuals and as a culture, could go into these beautiful places and treat them with respect? Would there still be too many of us to leave the beauty alone so it can be appreciated by the next person, and the next generation?

·         I can’t help but think of myself as a young child, walking with my mother and seeing a beautiful flower. I wanted to pick it, but my mother said, “No. Appreciate it. But leave it where it is so the next person can appreciate it, too.”

·         I keep thinking about my Aunt Louise asking if there were any trees in North Dakota and Montana, and thinking that was so funny. In North Dakota, however, there really weren’t a lot of trees. There certainly weren’t forests the way we think of them in Michigan. But everywhere I have gone, till now, there have been trees.

·         Crossing into Arizona from Nevada, there are no trees. OK, I take that back – there are small trees that look like overgrown bushes. Now that I am a little farther from Lake Mead, I am starting see more clean undergrowth, but for a while there it was rock and scrub.

·         In Las Vegas, it felt like I was in an oven. When the wind blew, it felt like a convection oven.

·         One of the most stunning drives yet between Las Vegas and Flagstaff … well, between Boulder City and Flagstaff.

·         Everything I experience is a gift from the Universe, a gift in the realization that it is part of me. We like to think of gifts as “nice” things, things that give us pleasure or delight. But not everything gives us pleasure or delight, yet every experience, person, relationship, … everything is a gift.

·         Something near Westside Lilo’s, where we stopped for lunch in Seligman, creaked like an old metal gate in a cowboy movie. I’m taking a piece of Route 66 out of Seligman. The first thing I notice is a Burma-Shave sign.

Angels to protect you when you drive, usually retire at 65.
Just this once and just for fun we’ll let you finish what we’ve begun. ????

·         Sign in the back window of a truck: “My windows aren’t dirty. It’s doggy nose art.”

7/17
·         Canyon, gully, creek, wash

·         Something to be said in favor of the National Park System: you know what you will find when you get to it, any park, that is. Thus, you can pass by all the tiny shacks hocking petrified wood, or Indian artifacts, in favor of quality items that may be a bit more expensive, but are definitely authentic, and don’t rape the environment of the parks.

·         During the Triassic, this area was wet and swampy. There was some sort of deluge that carried trees into a waterway and pulled them to the bottom. Once there, they were impregnated with various minerals, including silica. These minerals took the place of the wood fibers but kept their form. All of this was buried for a very long time, until the Colorado Plateau pushed up, at which time the petrified wood and beautiful colors of the Painted Desert were revealed.

·         Teddy Roosevelt was, as with other national parks, instrumental in the preservation of this area; but it wasn’t until after the 1920s that the park was supported with enough staff to keep it from being plundered.

·         I am driving through, marveling at the vast grasslands dotted with colorful, striped rock formations in the distance, and realizing that no pictures I take can do justice to the majesty of what I see and feel.

·         Now I see where the colors of the arts of the Southwest come from. They are the colors of the rock, the sagebrush, and the sky.

·         There are no rivers here. There are a number of bridges over lowered tracks with names like Dry Wash, or Pueblo River.

·         I keep thinking, “Why did we never come here? Could we not afford it? Would we have been unlikely to travel well together as a family? We were not campers, so a long vacation would have been expensive, I guess.” But I grew up seeing these places on Disney documentaries, and always imagined that I would actually see them in person.

·         I just met a young geologist from the University of Texas. He was lit up with what he was seeing. I am so moved by what I see, I can’t believe I have no one to share this with.

·         I’m glad I followed my instincts and the signs, rather than Google, or I would have driven on the highway to the northeast side of the park and missed out on the beautiful drive through it.

·         I just saw a sign for: “In Door Pool.” I wonder how they do that.

·         The oil tanks and rigs in the foreground kind of ruined the view of the red rocks east of Gallup, NM.

·         We seem to have come to a point in this country where leadership no longer means representing the best of what a group of people can be, but rather representing the basest common denominator. We don’t look to our leaders to set an example – and perhaps this is the natural outcome of the horrific behavior of some leaders in the past decades – but it is unfortunate that we are satisfied with someone who erupts in word vomit, seemingly thoughtlessly, and who, rather than looking at how to make this country a more collaborative place goads people into violent reactions.

7/8
·         As I am leaving Albuquerque this morning, I see a person on a fenced overpass, just sitting and watching the traffic. Suddenly, it is 1973, and I am a freshman at WMU, sitting on the wide windowsill of my dorm room in Smith Burnham, watching the traffic on Stadium Drive, and wishing I were going someplace.

·         I just saw a sign for a “Staying in Business Sale.” I like it.

·         Here’s an idea: some sort of national, or even international, site for older musicians/artists/crafts people called Not Too Digital (or something like that). This would be a consortium of some kind, through which tech savvy people could help these older artists to sell their art and help them get up to speed on the digital technology. It would also be a place for buyers to look for quality art from older artists.

7/10
·         Today’s On Being with Krista Tippit, guest Elizabeth Gilbert, talking about curiosity.

·         The yield sign was first used on a trial basis in Tulsa, OK.

·         After listening to Krista Tippit and Elizabeth Gilbert, I realize that I am curious about a number of things, in particular the history of non-Caucasians in this country. I have encountered many Hispanic people as I have traveled, and I am curious about when groups of them started to settle in this country. I also would like to know more about the numerous Native American tribes scattered throughout the country.

·         I am learning to follow every Googled recommendation up with a phone call. In Fort Smith, AR, I tried two places that were supposedly organic groceries, before finally having lunch at a small, family run, Mexican place. The first address I came to looked completely closed, as in boarded up. The second one simply wasn’t open today, even though the website said it was.

·         I like driving without a time goal in mind. It’s easy to get out of other people’s way, and not to take offense when people get in mine. I just slow down, smile, and let it go. Once in a while, I have to message someone and tell them I’m running a little behind, but it always works out.

7/11
·         It would be fun to do a tattoo tour of the country, not parlors but people – When did you get your first tattoo? Why? Where? How many do you have now? How do you feel it defines you?

·         People drive significantly over the speed limit, for the most part, both on surface roads and on the highways. (I think this is Tennessee.)

7/12
·         Terrance Callicutt & Tyron Parker at Scoops Ice Cream, just east of S Main and (106) E Ge Patterson

·         Interesting street names in Memphis: intersection of Democrat and Republican, McLemore Boulevard, Martin Luther King Blvd and Danny Thomas Blvd, BB King Boulevard

·         Rick recommended TV shows: Mozart in the Jungle, Luther, The Network (Jeff Daniels, Sam Waterston), Dexter, Breaking Bad

7/15
·         I’m feeling pretty low today. I keep thinking I will go back to LA. Perhaps it’s time to see how I might live thereon SS plus the minimum reportable income I can make.

·         Joan says she knows people who can help me do weddings and memorials.
·         I could try it through the winter, perhaps, as long as I wouldn’t have to dip into my savings. Then I’d still have options for moving on, if need be.

7/17
·         Interviewer asks author, “Does it bother you to think that you may not be remembered as a writer?” Writer replies, “Of course not. I’ll be dead.”

·         As I have headed East, and now North, a vague sense of anxiety pervades my travel. Maybe it’s because I still don’t know where I’m going to end up. On the other hand, it may be because I belong somewhere further west and/or north, and as I move away from that my body tells me that something’s not right.

7/21
·         The sun warms the air till it can suck in the fog with a big toke.

·         Driving in Vermont is a lot like driving in California – constant ups and downs and curves – but Vermont is a lot more developed. There are many signs for “hidden drives.” California, at least where there are 2-lane roads, is a lot wilder.

·         Fresh Air today, contributor Matt Johnson

·         Eric Adams

·         Hotel (Syracuse): missing lightbulb, plug that doesn’t work, toilet paper on back of toilet, not in dispenser, Wi-Fi is horrible, sheet and blanket were reversed, no Do Not Disturb sign available, outdoor door not locked at night – no card access, unpleasant clerk this morning: spoke to me curtly when I entered the dining room at 6:15 looking for fruit to take with me, since I was going to be gone before breakfast was served at 7:00.


7/29 (Three months since signing on my house)
·         When I think back on my departure from Sue’s house the morning of May 1, how cool and rainy the weather was, and how excited I was to be off on this adventure, it seems a long, long time ago. I have seen so much of the United States. I have seen its rivers – the Mississippi flowing strong, and the dried up riverbeds of the Southwest. And even in the last week, I have seen how far less musical the rivers of Ithaca are in the current drought.

I have seen weathered the people of North Dakota, compared to the sun-drenched, smiling faces of Southern California, and the beatifically calm demeanor of the Pacific Northwest.

I wish I could say that there is one place I want to be. This adventure has only shown me how many choices I have, not only of place but of how I want to express my personhood. Choosing only one seems an abdication of riches.

The longings I have are sometimes for specific people’s company, but more often simply for company. I also miss constructive work, at times, to the point where I want to clean my own room at the Airbnb, or help plant flowers, or pick up trash on the street. Sometimes I even do these things.

Today, I face one of the biggest drives of my journey, from Ithaca to Grand Rapids around the bottom of the lake. Most of my day-long trips were 4 ½ to 5 ½ hours. I do not yet know where I will stay in Grand Rapids, either now for the next four nights, or when I return with my parents on the 12th. I have a sense that it will be a good idea to stay around the area until the end of September, when I can vote and then be on my way.

At that point, I would like to drive south again, meet up with Rick, and check out the mobile home situation in Florida. I am almost certain that it makes sense to buy an inexpensive mobile home with him, and split residence fees. That way, we will both have a place to call home base for very little expense. Once that is established, I would travel back to Abby, perhaps through Christmas, and then return to Florida to find some gainful employment for a few months.

When the snow goes away from the upper US, I will visit Michigan and New York State once again. I may look for work near Abby and establish some place to live until it’s time to go South again.

During the winter months, I may want to make my way back to Alice again, as well.

·         Picasso’s Art of Food in Erie, PA.

·         It’s Okay to Suck, by Tim ??, Professor at Ryerson University

7/31
·         Emmylou Harris – article about Hard Bargain collaboration

·         The Calorie Myth

·         Keyhole garden

8/5

·         Listening to a specific local Asheville station, as I am driving out of town, the first thing that strikes me is the uniqueness of the advertising: a mattress store that recycles its mattresses, a restaurant (Magic Mushroom?) with a narrator that sounds stoned, restaurants emphasizing locally sourced, healthy, organic ingredients, etc.

And PR classical music station DJs talking about making coffee with champagne: sweet is better than dry, and there was some kind of mustard to add to it, as well.

·         It’s about 11 o’clock in the morning, and so far today I have had a cup of tea, a scramble with spinach and eggs and cheese, a small sausage patty, and an entire package of almond bark with a decaf coffee.

·         I am sensing myself very much a part of a wider world, today. I feel California, and I feel Kingston. Here I am in South Carolina, and I am here, too. As I listen to increasing Olympics coverage, I hear the music of many national anthems, and I feel them, even though I haven’t visited them. Or maybe it’s just all the almond bark I just ate.

·         When, sometimes, I catch myself trying to speak over someone else who is speaking, I wonder if I do that a lot. I usually don’t interrupt someone, but I will start to insert a thought, and then the other person will go on speaking. I have noticed this several times with different people, where he or she will raise their voice and continue speaking. It makes me wonder whether I do that sometimes, too. When this happens, I usually just stop and listen, and if my contribution is still relevant, I give it when there is another opening.

·         ”Curiosity shop” from Ben, as a name for a second hand store.

8/10
·         Luna Roitisserie and Empanadas (in Durham)

·         (Bike ride notes)
L on Waldo Rood
R on Cary Parkway
Past Old Apex
R on Lake Pine Dr
Go around lake and back out on Lake Pine
Cross Cary Parkway & stay on Lake Pine
R on Maynard and quickly L on Griffis St.
It wiggles around and then finally goes straight for a short bit
L on W Park St
R on Madison Ave
R on NW Maynard
L on Sudbury
L on W Dynasty Dr
R on Evans Rd
L on Western Parkway
L on Chapel Hill Rd
R on NW Cary parkway
R on Crabtree Crossing
L on bike route (Coles Branch)
L at T, route becomes Lagault Dr (stay on it)
R on High House
L on Davis
Stop at Goodberry
L on Waldo Rood … etc.

8/11
·         Rookwood lite, trailer (seen on the road)

·         Saw two middle-aged, white police officers in uniform leaving the restaurant where we had lunch (Graze on Main in Wytheville, VA) and thought, “I wonder if they’re afraid.” Then I was taken back to substitute teaching in inner city GR, compared and contrasted with outlying schools – fear of the culturally unfamiliar, difficulty in communication and accepted cultural norms.

8/12-13
·         Stuff I gotta do:
-          Change doctor on my Priority page
-          Make appointments for – mammogram, colonoscopy, teeth cleaning, haircut, oil change
-          Write some lyrics, poetry, blog posts, piece for Rachael

·         Sign seen in NY state about ice cream: “It’s not just good. It’s really good!” Thoughts about judgment.

·         Cakery Café

·         The interconnectedness of thought: I place my hands in front of my belly to encourage the chi to move. I think of Rick Powell and of all my tai chi friends. Mind wanders.

·         Fears/concerns bubble up in my stomach when I think that Abby really doesn’t want me to be close by. I understand that she struggles between missing my presence and not wanting me to overbear her life. I also see in this the necessity for me to build my own life and not to be constantly serving either parents or children … or grandchildren. That would not be healthy for any of us.

·         Aeschylus poem, read by Bobby Kennedy

·         I have a gift of music: I was born with this gift, and I used it when I was young. I brought joy to people in theatres, in nursing homes, and in churches by singing for them, and by feeling and believing the things I was singing. At the point when Chuck and I agreed that I would only do theater that paid, once Alice was born, the gift was stuffed down into my gut, and  bound up in other places in my body and in my psyche. It is difficult now to find the places where it resides and to understand how to release it, but I will find a way. I know so truly that this is the cause of my Crohn’s disease, and probably of other physical issues, as well.

In the past few years, it has become easier to hide in the screen of the computer, playing games for hours, rather than face the pain of not creating or try to figure out how to create again. The few pieces written for GVSU exams were inspired at some level, but not nearly the fulfillment that I seek and need.

·         Bad Dog Ranch in Colorado

8/14
·         I need to get a shower today, or swim with soap.

·         I would be interested to know more about the kind of personality that enjoys large groups for a brief time, LOVES meeting new people if she can have a discussion with them one-on-one and really start getting to know them, gets “done” with parties and large social occasions pretty quickly, yet is lonely enough when alone for long periods to distract herself with computer and television, giving a false sense of company.

8/16
·         Need more alone time to write (but will I?!)

·         Read Travels with Charley

·         Write lyrics: travel, people around the country, fear, politics, love with a certain perspective

8/17
·         Skin deep; safecosmetics.org; Alchemy forever

·         I really want to say today what I think you already know
That with you my life is richer, greater, stronger than I could be alone
And you know how much you mean to me that I will stand up here
In front of everyone we love, all whom we hold dear.

I want to walk with you, hand in hand, as far as the future goes,
Because when we walk together, no ill wind ever blows.
I trust you, for your deepest self is kind, and strong, and true.
I can’t imagine anyone with whom to face the world, but you.

You make me laugh, you make me talk, you know me inside out.
You help me see the sunshine, and that’s what life’s about.
I hope and pray that our faithful days go on without an end,
This is the life I’ve dreamed of, as I marry my best friend.

8/18
·         FBfan_KEEN2016

·         Approaching Grand Rapids feels strange in several ways: it really doesn’t feel  like “going home,” but I have no home from which to approach it. My spirits rise at the familiar radio stations, especially the ones that coincide with the buttons on my radio. And I am ever so grateful to Annie for being willing to put me up, but as I drive toward the city without a real “home” destination, my mind wanders beyond the end of September, and I wonder where I will go next.


Random notes without dates:

·         (written 8/26) I realized this afternoon that I am afraid: afraid of bicycling around the steep hills of Ithaca, afraid that the experience of bicycling will be daunting and disappointing, as it was earlier in my journey; and perhaps I am also afraid of the journey of life, and that the bicycling is just a metaphor.

Into what do I jump next with both feet, the way I did into my journey? Can I rediscover the spirit of adventure which feels as though it’s fading fast?

·         I have been encouraged by a wise woman to do the following: 1) Do not try to choose, but follow the things that give me joy; 2) Allow that which I have been holding inside for such a long time to come out so I may, 3) Share my gifts with the world, because the world needs it so much. 4) Make all my choices based on joy. Do not overthink. Do not do things just because someone else needs me to.

·         I saw the mountains of the Northwest
In their green and glory best.
There it rains most all the time.
This is ours, and it is fine.

I saw Pacific breakers roll,
Bathing warm to winter cold.
Crying seagulls, circling free;
This is you, and it is me.

·         In Canton, Ohio, lavender honey decaf iced cappuccino. Wow!

·         Habits and patterns of complacency

·         Zhibit – Directory of California artists

Trois Familia on Sunset: crispy hash brown chilaquiles, sunny side up egg, cotija, salsa macho & avocado (LA)

Clint Margrave, Salute the Wreckage (poetry)

Skunks are ubiquitous

·         Decided I’d been alone enough and went to Stanley’s Steakhouse for supper (Jackson, CA). Agreed to sit on the patio. As I was being seated, I noticed another woman sitting alone and almost asked if she’d like company. When the hostess asked about my drink order, I said I might want wine with dinner, and the woman at the next table made a recommendation. I asked if she’d like company, and Remy and I moved over to her table. She is Anita Whitcomb, Jackson, CA

Trees at Yosemite: charred trunks indicate a controlled burn; completely burned trees are from fire; brown needles indicate drought or beetles.

Calaveras county has a lot of Mark Twain things. RV Park called Frogtown, USA

American Tunes by Alan Tussault (sp?)

The advantage to traveling alone is that I can change my mind at a moment’s noptice. The disadvantage is that I don’t do some things that I might otherwise, because there is no one else saying, “Come on! Let’s do that.”

Book: What makes Olga Run?

Grammar Girl

·         Met Amy & Jackie at The Nova Café in Bozeman on 5/22

Bridge at Lake Koocanusa

Egg and I Road, Nip Lee Road, Sweet Laurette Café in Port Townsend

Mount Walker – 101 south, L at T; Forks, some beach trails

Vancouver Island -- ? miles long, about 50 miles wide: 11th largest Canadian island, approximately 700,000 people, half of whom live in Victoria.

SS notes: 6/7: Need some structure. Remy and I both do better if we know where we’re going to eat and sleep. Need a good bed. Need clean, running water, preferably a hot option. Need human interaction.

·         Any photographs I take cannot possibly do justice to the amazing panoramas I see as I drive through the wild parts of our country. Light and shadow paint a patchwork over mountains, fields of sagebrush, and water. Mountain tops loom up through the clouds. The clouds themselves are living art.

The highway here is lined with groves of fruit and nut trees interspersed with huge rose and jasmine hedges. (I think this was going from Jackson to Napa.)

·         Jackson
There are no scorpions at this altitude. 1000 feet lower, there are, but they are relatively harmless to people and to small dogs.

The poison oak (leaves of three) is not harmless. Just like oak trees, it comes in many varieties.

Honeybees want to fly. If you put a water source right next to the hive, they won’t use it. If you run your grey water from the sink into a tub filled with plants, the plants will purify the water very quickly. You can tell this by the honeybees drinking the water. They will always go for the cleanest water source.

·         Haiku from Wisconsin:

Mottled sunlight on
Algae yellow marsh water.
Scent of heavy spring.

Wisconsin is full
Of lilacs, singing their song
Of Alice, Alice.

·         Not Haiku – near Glacier

A green song of the most exquisite beauty
The barely audible whisper
Deep determination

8/24
·         As I drive through Grant and Newaygo, I love being on the back roads again, and I like it even better here because things are familiar, and I know where I’m going.

·         Listening to the radio as I travel is fascinating. I just heard an advertisement for a dentist. It gave his street address, but not the city. There is an assumption that anyone who is listening already knows what city is being talked about.


·         Chevy 1990 pickup, bed is 8’ 2 1/2” long and 5’ 8 1/2” wide (extrenal), 8’ x 5’ 2 ½” (internal); camper is a Palomino with the extendable top, probably same vintage – 6’ 2” at widest point, 4’ 10” width of the part that fits inside the truck bed, 8’ 2” length of lower parth.